Why You Should Get Married and Have Children

 1. Stability

When you return home, you have a wife/husband to greet you and someone to spend time with.

You have someone to talk about what happened, eat, and sleep with.

You have a different path in life than when you were dating.

Now, you no longer hear your parents or people around you asking when you are getting married.

Of course, you may hear them asking when you are going to have children later.

Being stable in life is really important.

The worries about marriage and the future that you have been putting aside will be relieved a little.

Because you can dream of a future for your family, not alone, you will not be anxious and you will feel at ease because one big worry is reduced.

Psychological stability allows you to discover a new version of yourself.


2. Altruism (Your life changes when you have a child)

In order for a couple to live together, each person has to give up some things and do some things together.

From the moment you get married, there are many things you have to choose together.

Where should we have the wedding? What style of invitations should I make? Where should I get the studio, dress, makeup, etc.

You should combine your thoughts with your wife/husband's thoughts for all decisions of the couple to get the best result.

Of course, there are bound to be times when one person sacrifices for the other.

I think that couples grow in this way.

Also, if you have a child, the couple's life will change 180 degrees.

Even the most selfish people in the world become selfless to their children.

Even if I starve, my child should not starve.

Even if I am sick, I want my child to be sick instead.

This is something that you can really feel after giving birth.

Your parents become more selfless to their children.

Now, they ask about their children's well-being before asking about their own well-being.

But even that doesn't feel like jealousy, but love for my child.

Of course, raising a child is not easy.

If you breastfeed a newborn, you should feed them almost every 1-2 hours, and even if you feed them formula, it’s only 3-4 hours, and there are countless foods, diapers, baths, etc. Since the baby can’t do anything on their own, you have to do everything for them.

After about a year, when they start walking and talking on their own, they still have a lot of free time.

Once they start talking and communicating, they become even more loving and happy every day.

Of course, there are many times when the baby doesn’t listen or things are difficult.

However, as in life, nothing is easy, and the happiness can be ignored compared to the difficulty.

These days, the number of DINKs is increasing, but in my limited opinion, I hope you don’t miss the opportunity to gain an experience that will change the world, and definitely experience it.


3. Thoughts on Parents

As I mentioned above, raising a child requires a lot of effort and time.

After experiencing it, I can feel that my parents also had a hard time raising me.

And when they were raising me, there were no convenient parenting items, so the difficulty of parenting must have been even more severe than it is now. So, you can feel how much your parents have suffered without even seeing them.

As you raise a child, you naturally think of your parents, and you also think about how well you have grown.

You naturally reflect on and feel grateful for the times when you have caused your parents trouble.

I hope that you will create a happy family with the determination to treat your parents better, even now.

I always support parents who are struggling to raise their children.

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