What a child needs is memories

 Raising a child, I often think of my childhood.

Going camping with my family and playing in a tent when I was young, falling asleep while looking at the glow-in-the-dark stars on the ceiling when I first got my own room and slept alone, falling asleep between my father's legs, fighting with my sister over who would use the computer first, going to the library with my mother and reading books and eating udon, playing ghost with my sister and crying, loving and eating the scrambled eggs my sister made for me, calling them beggar eggs, etc.

Of course, memories can be embellished, and good memories can become bad memories, or bad memories can become good memories.

But still, everything is my memories, memories, and the past.

I think all the memories and recollections with my family support me as a person and help me maintain my values.

So now I have my own family, and I want to create good memories and recollections for my wife and children.

I want to create a family where family comes first, not money, and I don’t want to sacrifice my family for money.

For example, I won’t try to reduce the time I spend with my children in order to earn a lot of money.

Because I think that memories with children during this time are important times and periods that will never come back.

Children have amazing memories, and their brains grow rapidly until they are 3 years old (36 months).

Children imitate their parents’ behavior and speech, and since their parents are everything to young children, I always think that parents should do better.

I also don’t want to regret it later.

Rather than earning a lot of money for their children’s private education, I want them to spend more time with their parents.

If I earn a lot of money to pay for private education and reduce the time I spend with my family, I don’t think education is for whom or my thoughts about my family will become more stable, so I dream of this direction.

I don’t want to be a parent who only tells my child to do this and that, such as studying next to my child, playing with my child, and reading a book with my child.

I believe that if these memories and recollections with my family accumulate, my child will become healthier and stronger.

I want to create a family where my child can rest, where he or she is free from stress outside, and where the bond between parents and children is good.

To that end, I will always study, think, and dream of the future together.

As the saying goes, “Family harmony is everything,” in order for a country to prosper, families must be happy, and in order for individuals to be happy, families must be comfortable, and individuals who grow up in this way and are upright will create a better world.

I hope everyone's family is peaceful, and the ideal family I hope for is one where parents are authoritative but friendly to their children, and children follow and keep the rules of each family.

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