Dare to Lead(Brown, Brene)

 1. Small interests and understanding of others are the driving force for people.


Trust is not a heroic or noticeable act, but is gained through showing interest, listening, and truly caring and building relationships.

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It is very difficult to gain trust from others.

However, I think that trust can start from very small and subtle things.

I think that trust can be gained through things such as being with someone when they really need it or are having a hard time, or having a conversation of comfort/empathy, even if it is not a big gift or financial reward.

I think that trust and faith in someone is not gained by giving them a lot of money, but through small interests, consideration, understanding, and conversation.

If a team leader understands and cares for the current status and personal affairs of team members within a company, and helps them, the team leader can gain trust and faith from team members, and if he or she shows interest, consideration, and listening to each member within a family, he or she can build a good family.

Of course, it is difficult and hard for me, but I am trying hard and trying to show that I am changing. As the saying goes, 'A word can pay off a thousand nyang', I think that warm hearts, words, understanding, and interest will be of great help to others and to oneself.​


2. There is nothing perfect in this world.


Perfectionism is not the key to success. Rather, as confirmed by many studies, perfectionism hinders success. Perfectionism is related to depression, anxiety, addiction, paralysis, and loss of opportunities.

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Just as expecting perfection too much creates more holes, my method is to start with something and then improve it.

There is no company or society that is perfect from the beginning, and I think that most of them are moving in a direction that becomes more stable through numerous errors in performance, alternatives, and modifications.

Therefore, there is no need to blame the country you were born in, and there is no need to blame yourself for the fact that what you do is not perfect.

For example, when reviewing a draft document after writing it, there are many cases where you cannot find a problem even after looking at it dozens of times, but someone else who sees it for the first time finds a problem right away. So, we may work together more efficiently and work as a team to become more perfect.

I think that in order to make something perfect, we must first acknowledge that nothing is perfect and try to implement it.


3. Everything depends on your thoughts.


Now, when your thoughts turn negative, stop everything, take a deep breath, and change the direction of your thoughts. Think completely and try to maintain that state. When you are ready to respond rationally without reacting emotionally, ask yourself, “Am I the problem?” first.

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It is worth thinking about whether there really are bad and good things.

I failed the first college entrance exam when I was a student, so I asked my parents for a chance to try again and got it. I repeated the exam and got a high score, and was admitted to a local university as a scholarship student.

I wonder if this result would have been possible if I had succeeded on the first college entrance exam, and now I think that my failure back then actually became a better nutrient for me now.

Also, when I first got a job, it wasn't the field I wanted, but after changing jobs several times, I think I'm now living a life that I'm satisfied with with better results.

If I had gotten a job in the field I wanted, I would have gotten paid more, of course, but I think I would be living a different life than I am now.

In this way, the direction you choose can have better or worse results in the future, but I don't think that just because there's a problem right now, it's bad forever.

Of course, you might feel bad, depressed, or depressed at the time.

But that's only the time, and if you figure out the right direction for what to do next, I don't think it's a problem.

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