12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos(Jordan Bernt Peterson)

 1. Will before execution is more important.


Helping someone who does not have the will to change on their own is simply a waste of time.

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In order to change or achieve your own habits, behaviors, and goals, the will to execute them is most important.

If you are satisfied with your current habits or behaviors, then you have no will to change at all, and you only have the thoughts of others who want you to change.

I think that your own will is the most important for change to occur, and nothing works for someone who has no intention of changing at all.

As the saying goes, 'reading sutras to a cow's ear', no matter how good the methods, alternatives, and choices are around you, if you do not think so, they are all useless.

Before changing others, you should question whether you can change yourself well, and you should always think about how much your will can change yourself.


2. How much have I changed compared to the past?


Do not compare yourself to others, but only to the you of yesterday. 

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I think the reason why comparing yourself to others is useless is because their situations are not the same as yours.

For example, if you look at it simply, there is a video uploaded to YouTube of someone the same age as you bragging about their money.

If you look at it and think about why it is different from you, it is because everything is different, such as their experiences, thoughts, and physical abilities.

People tend to rationalize themselves and the main character when watching videos (movies, dramas, etc.).

Of course, when reading a book, they identify with the main character and have the ability to indirectly gain that emotion and experience.

However, if you look at it objectively, it is completely different from your own situation, and if you do not change in reality, your situation cannot change.

That is why I think that comparing yourself to yourself rather than comparing yourself to others will be the most helpful for your development.

I have also started a blog for over 2 years now, and I have found myself writing books, receiving royalties, and reviewing over 100 books. Today, as well, I am writing a book review like this, trying to make myself better than I was yesterday.

As these efforts accumulate, my future self will become a better person, and I will try to make every day a day where I work hard for my future self.


Successful people delay satisfaction and deal with the future.

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3. Let go of pride and open both ears and admit it.


In order to escape from a problem, you must first admit the problem itself. The sooner you admit the problem, the sooner you can escape from the problem.

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Even when working or encountering a problem, you are busy adding other factors without actually fixating on the problem.

That is why the argument does not end with one problem, but grows bigger and spreads into an overall problem.

When it spreads overall, it becomes more difficult to solve the problem.

Just as a fight between children becomes an adult fight, until one problem becomes an overall problem, all parts tend to bring back the bad things that have accumulated over time. In order to stop a problem from growing like that, you must first acknowledge the problem itself and not add other factors.

For example, if you discover a problem, it is because the result was discovered from another problem. And if it continues like that, it will naturally change into some problems in the past, even in the past.

However, a problem is a problem because it is like this, and to solve it, you just need to do some prescription.

I think that past events can be solved step by step.

Of course, I am not good at this part either.

I think it is the part where you increase excuses for self-defense, and I always hear this from my team leader or my wife.

In order to avoid getting my petty pride hurt, I tend to think of excuses, bring up past problems, and make the problem bigger.

I always have to change this part, and this chapter is like a scolding to me.

I think you should always solve problems simply and clearly, and not repeat the mistake of bringing in other problems.

Self-reflection and self-introspection are really hard things, but I hope that through them I can learn more about myself and grow, which will ultimately help me in my future.

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